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Tue May 13, 2003
Well, it's that time again. Quinn is going
in for his cardiac catheterization tomorrow, Wednesday, May 14th. Thu May 15, 2003
I barely have the energy to write this,
but I feel I HAVE to get an update out there, I know everyone is waiting
for it. Mon May 19, 2003
Today I sit on
my hands waiting for "the call" from the nurse to schedule with the
surgeon, and hopefully a little extra information.
I left a message with the surgeon's secretary
(his nurse is on vacation this week (!)) so we can get that scheduled -
the big appointment where we talk about everything and decide together
the best course of action and how soon to take it. Tue, 20 May 2003
We have an appointment! We go
and do the consult with Dr. Fiore' (Q's surgeon) next Wednesday the
28th at 2pm. It is actually a huge relief just to have the
appointment, actually - one less thing to think about and one step
closer to "formulating the plan" for his surgeries this June. Wed May 28, 2003
Well, I have to
do it sometime, right? We spoke with the surgeon today and this is
what we found out: Mon Jun 2, 2003
Well, Quinn
passed his bleed test today as we knew he would, so tomorrow at 5am,
we go to Cardinal Glennon for his surgery.
They are going to
replace the leaky tricuspid valve once and for all.
Wish us luck and
keep us in your prayers.
Wed Jun 4, 2003
Wow, wowie, wow,
where to begin.
All last week
after we found out Quinn was having his valve replacement I was a
wreck - edgy, angry, irritable, crabby, sad, crazy. Then Tuesday
came: Surgery Day.
We had to be in
the hospital at 5am, I woke up sans alarm at 2:45 and got up. Oddly,
despite all my angst all week long and longer even, I felt a sense
of amazing calm.
We went in to the
hospital and got Quinn all ready for surgery, then had an hour to
wait until they did anything, so *I* got to hold him as he fell
asleep on my lap, head on my shoulder. It was wonderful.
Dr. Fiore' came
in around just pre-surgery time to say hello and talk. He informed
us that he had gone over it with the "team" again and they had
decided to do the valve REPAIR (read: no Coumadin) rather than the
replacement, because, "each kid ought to have one chance with his
own valve. ONE."
What?!? But 5
days ago you just told us all the reasons you did NOT want to do the
repair. And we trust him implicitly with our son, so we said, "Um,
okay," and that was that.
So he went in for
surgery and we cried (he was all happy on Versed), and we waited.
They did the
valve repair AND patched the narrowing pulmonary artery and
everything was totally smooth and totally great.
At 4pm, they
wheeled him into the PICU. By 5 we were sitting next to him
remarking on how amazing he looked. Clean incision, good color,
comfortable.
Today he came off
the vent - this morning, actually. All day he has been doing well. I
talked them into letting me give him ice chips because he was
thirsty (I asked for water, we compromised), and he has Elmo videos,
Fentanyl, Tylenol and his binky, so he is doing all right.
Tonight we sleep
at home because they are giving him Chlorohydrate if he wakes up and
is cranky, so he'll be out for the night.
SO...we wait. He
will heal up this week and we'll likely have his Fontan in
September, before cold and flu season hit. Unless Dr. Fiore' decides
otherwise, which he is prone to doing.
The next 3-6
months are when we find out if the valve is going to hold. Keep
those prayers coming! They are working beautifully!
Tomorrow they are
going to take out some of his drainage tubes, feeding him slowly
through the G-tube, I ought to be able to hold him on my lap, and he
will be weaning some off of the Fentanyl.
So far everything
has gone smoothly and uneventfully. THANK YOU EVERYONE for keeping
us in your thoughts and prayers - it is working! We are very happy
parents right now. And please keep them coming for the week and
months to come, this is our critical time for that valve.
Fri Jun 6, 2003
Well, after a
brilliant first and second day of recovery from surgery, we began
what heart parents like to refer to as the roller coaster ride.
Quinn had three
seizures sort of in a row after being given a little booster dose of
Fentanyl after they tried to wean him from it and into Tylenol 3
with codeine. I am told by about everyone that it is about
impossible that it was this that caused it, but my mommy intuition
tells me otherwise. It may not have caused it per se, but I believe
it was the straw that broke the camel's back, as it was given to him
instead of food, which in my opinion (my gut) was what was REALLY
needed at the time. Just a little bit too much stress at once, and
his body just went into shock.
(This actually
happened before, when Quinn was first born and his body began to go
into shock, the night after we brought him into Glennon he had a
seizure. No neurological damage, no need for follow-up. So they
consider this a "history" for him.)
So of course they
ran a barrage of tests - EEG showed good brain activity and that the
seizures had stopped (yay!). Echo of his heart showed no clots
(whew!). And the test we waited for ALL night, and the most
important one in our opinion, the CT scan, showed nothing abnormal -
everything looked good. THANK THE POWERS THAT BE.
So he is re-intubated
and again on Versed...I am going to ask that this time when we begin
to wean him since he has had a couple of days if maybe we can go
straight to the Tylenol with Codeine and skip the Fentanyl
altogether - it definitely has its time and place, but I think it
has outlived its usefulness with us at this point.
Re-intubated,
just about when he was about to get some ice cream. Two steps
forward, three steps back...
The one sort of
okay thing about his being intubated, though, is we were able to
come home and get some rest since there is virtually no chance he
will wake enough to really know what is happening, and he is in the
best hands he can be in in the PICU (besides ours, of course).
So now we are
rested and ready to face another day of healing, and hopefully an
uneventful one at that.
Incidentally,
EVERYONE in the PICU except our roommate had a suck of a day
yesterday. There were crying faces ALL over the second floor ALL day
and long into the night (I went home at 11pm). Please pray not only
for us, but that after yesterday's "rain" (of tears) that today
beings some sunshine and with it a rainbow.
Thank you all for
continuing to keep Quinn in your thoughts and prayers.
Fri Jun 6, 2003
I don't know if I
ought to update now while I am so drained and numb.
Quinn was
extubated today and he is doing well. They started Phenobarbitol for
the seizures. MRI won't be until Tuesday, we got bumped for some
emergencies.
Quinn is sleeping
comfortably, but his fight is gone. He is resigned and listless when
he does wake up, and his only comfort seems to be Thomas the Tank
engine. He won't look at me or Josh and is unresponsive, although
his pupils continue to be responsive and he squeezes his eyes shut
whenever they try to check him. He is not moving his left arm at all
or his head.
We are freaking
out and numb at the same time. I don't know what to feel.
Maybe he is
hungry and weak from no food (they give him calories and stuff to
keep him going, but it's just IV fluids, it doesn't offer any energy
boost). Maybe he is so drained from the pain and being messed with
he just wants to sleep like we do.
His central heart
line came out today and I could have held him, but he was sleeping
so peacefully I didn't try to mess with him since his drainage tubes
are still in and it would have been a big complicated mess to try
and hold him. It was time to come home and rest anyway. I feel like
a suck Mom that we opted to come home and rest rather then go
through the rigamarole to hold him. (I am only sharing this (the
suck mom part) and don't need reassurance, please. It won't help
right now.)
We are so drained
and tired, and feel sad. Quinn has such fight in him usually, he
screams and fights and lets you know when he doesn't want you
messing with him. He is doing none of that - just lies there and
barely opens his eyes and barely looks at anything. It's like he is
giving up.
Please
pray/chant/dance/do pujas/voodoo/think/Reiki/meditate/etc that he
gets his fight back.
The nurses and
docs tell me it can be the Pheno, it really makes them sleepy and
has a bit of a pain relieving effect for the first couple of days. I
hope it is the Pheno.
He has to get his
fight back.
Tue Jun 10, 2003
The Mighty Quinn,
our hero and the greatest joy of our life, died last night, June
8th, 2003 when his heart arrested.
We will have a
ceremony in honor of him on Friday, June 13th, at 11am in our
backyard.
Donations can be
made in his name to Cardinal Glennon Children's Hospital - they took
phenomenal care of him and us while we were there.
Thu Jun 19, 2003 We had an amazing and beautiful Tibetan ceremony in our backyard for Quinn on Friday the 13th. For 49 days, while he is "between the worlds", so to speak, we will continue to burn candles, say mantras (Om Mani Peme Hung), think positively, and try to hold love in our hearts as much as possible for him, to help him to transition into the "above" so he can freely incarnate into another body or as an even higher form. Lama continues to say prayers and make food offerings to Quinn's spirit. Every Sunday we go to meditation with Lama and say prayers with him (chenrezig) for Quinn. We are trying our best to sort through all of Quinn's toys and give them away as is Tibetan tradition. His toys especially can hold his spirit here and make the transition tough. We want him to be able to let go freely. But it is difficult for us, as we also have an attachment to his toys, especially his favourites, and it feels like giving them up is the finale of really letting him go and admitting he is gone. And it is in a way, it allows him to go freely into the beyond. We have decided that the best way to honor Quinn is to have another child. For this, I must get into shape, as much as possible,. to give this new body the nest chance I can at being healthy. So now this is our goal. My goal. Also, a Memorial tree will be planted in Lindenwood Park (in St. Louis, MO - it was the park Quinn used to love to play in) for Quinn, and we are attempting to find out about also having a memorial bench under his tree.
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